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Posted Topic: What is the kinkiest sex toy you've every used?

]]>Topic Detail: Maybe this is boring for some of you, but the kinkiest sex toy I've ever used is the Flexi Felix anal beads. Holy Sh!t ! I was not ready for all that! Next time... How bout a warning?!

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Posted Topic: Men! How Not to Attract Women

Topic Starter: TheBedWhisperer

]]>Topic Detail: So you're at a club. You've picked out your most flattering Ambercrombie & Fitch Tshirt with sleeves sown so tight, even your 8 year old nephew's biceps would look big in them. You're standing around with the guys laughing ridiculously loud at lame jokes hoping one these hot chics will notice the bulging bicep supporting your beer. You've already made enough mistakes to guarantee the only way you're getting lucky tonight is if you A) hit the strip club or B) drunk-dial an old flame who's now, really more of a stalker.

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]]> Remember: looking for a partner at the club is a numbers game. Relax and have fun with it! Learn from & laugh at your blunders. Picking up a date on the dance floor is not a science. It is an art. Following all of these tips to-the-letter will not guarantee you a date. And some of you pick up dates violating all of these recommendations. The recommendations here are generalities. They are not universal trues. While some of us might enjoy watching the likes of Jackie Chan, Steven Segal, & David Coruso on screen, mimicking them in the club is going to significantly decrease your odds of making a worthy catch. Be yourself first and modify your image to exude friendly confidence.

]]>There are just as many of women out there who are looking for that "bad boy" image, as there are women looking for that "good guy" image. Your snappy head movements, shifty eyes, & brisk pace through the club don't portray either image. At best, you look like you're too busy to meet her. At worst, you look like you're mentally unstable. Slow down! You're (hopefully) not in that bar to pick a fight. The other patrons there, aren't there to gauge how sober you are. And even if your choice audience is looking for the fighter / bad boy-type, she's not looking for someone to bail out of prison on her first encounter. (Btw, most women already know it's the quiet relaxed ones who are the most dangerous fighters). By slowing down, you portray a sense of self-worth. You are important. People wait on you. Your control is not easily challenged. Even if you are the fighter-type, you have enough sense to know there is a time and place for everything. Remember, you're there to relax! And (as stated previously) ultimately, you're not there to be noticed by her. You are there to notice her.

]]>What are you doing with your hands!? Wringing them close to your chest as you ask her for her number is down-right creepy. Scratching a spot on your arm viciously while you talk to her is probably going to draw unwanted questions about your overall health & hygiene. Touching your face, pressing or fluffing your hair, bunching your pants up in your fists...etc., are all signs of nervousness. If you're really lucky, she may find it endearing that you are nervous to approach her. But in showing these signs of weakness, you've placed the terms of engagement in her court. Now she can look to her friends for their approval. Now, she decides if you may buy her a drink, if you two will dance, if a numbers are exchanged, etc. At best, you are her and her friend's entertainment. At worst, you're a toy (a tool). Next time you watch a live newscaster, pay attention to what they do with their hands. The good ones will keep their hands loosely folded in front of them so the audience pays attention to what they are communicating with their face and mouth. If you're holding a drink in one hand, put the other thumb in the corner of your pocket with your fingers turned over your thigh. Rest it on the top of your belt buckle. If she does look at that other hand, she will have to manage her gaze as not to stare at your crouch (and whatever thoughts that come with that glance).

]]>That "whipped puppy" look is not attractive! You're probably (and hopefully) not portraying this look on purpose. But if you're not doing this on purpose, then chances are, you don't know when you ARE doing it. It starts with poor posture: slouching shoulders, hanging head, and a weak stance. Stand up straight! Square your shoulders! Hold your head up as if you were hanging from a hook in the crown of your head; Chin slightly up. If you're standing in one place, stand with your feet slightly wider than your shoulders as if you're planted in that spot. Stop shifting and fidgeting. Then next important part is your downcast and shifty eyes. Up and until now, most of your eye contact with an attractive stranger was probably by accident. You were staring at her and she "busted" you. If your eyes widened just before they cast down, you're game is over. Your mom always taught you that it is rude to stare... and it is rude... if staring is all you do. Next time you're "busted", narrow your eyes slightly and offer a big genuine smile. Let her know you noticed her. Most people are not comfortable holding a stranger's gaze for any period of time. If you are not ready for any type of interaction, feel free to look away. But! Make sure you do not look down!

]]>Stop looking so tough & serious! Most women are not attracted to a mean-mugger. You're unapproachable. So quit taking yourself so seriously and use one of the most powerful tools in your arson: the smile. There's an old proverb that goes something like, "A man that hath friends must (first) show himself friendly." Smiling is one of the easiest ways to show yourself friendly. In this simple, but powerful exercise, you're achieving a couple things: 1) You've made a positive first impression by showing yourself to be friendly. 2) If, and how she returns a smile will offer you vital information about how approachable she may be. No smile = there's a good chance she is not interested at that time. A big immediate smile = there's a good chance she's at least approachable. 3) An authentic smile commands authority! The receiver of such a smile will feel compelled to return one. You've placed yourself in a position of positive authority. By offering a genuine smile, you've forced her (subconsciously) to react positively or negatively depending on how she feels.

]]>Let's start with the basic. First, 95% of the women there are not there to notice guys. They are there to BE noticed. Single, dating,and married - their relationship status does not change their desire to be noticed. (Caveat: wanting to be noticed is not the same as wanting to be approached). That said, the most important thing you can do is change your attitude. Instead of focusing on how you look to them, start focusing on how they make an effort to be noticed. This adjustment alone will take your game to a whole new level!

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Posted Topic: tell the truth!

Topic Starter: meganbrat1919@yahoo.com

]]>Topic Detail: women would rather know the truth than listen to all the b.s. you will renig on later!

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Posted Topic: Anal Sex: Making it a Suc-sex

Topic Starter: TheBedWhisperer

]]>Topic Detail: If you're new to anal fingering, anal sex toys, analingus, prostate stimulation, or anal sex, there are some things you should know. Firstly, the most important thing is communication. Not everyone is open to anal activities. Be it religious beliefs, bad experiences in the past, misconceptions, or just a lack of exposure to the idea; they are all valid reasons. The assumptive toying in this area, may earn you a slap in the face – or worse, it may cost you the relationship! Knowing how your sexual partner feels about anal activities makes all the difference. The following posts will be dedicated to suc-sexful approaches, misconceptions, do's & don'ts, and any experiences from guys & girls as it relates to anal activities with your lucky or (un-lucky sex partner).

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]]> 7) Finally, have fun with it! Anal sex can be very erotic & pleasurable for both partners. The feelings of being exposed, participating in the forbidden, doing something different, mixing it up, having each other any way you both please, prostate stimulation, spicing up your sex life, etc, are all very good reasons for adding anal sex, anal sex toys, analingus, prostate stimulation, or anal sex to your list of bedroom activities!

]]>6) For anal sex, use a condom. Always!

]]>5) Cleanliness is next to sexiness. Allow your partner time for toileting & cleaning before participating. And once anal fingering, anal sex toy play, analingus, prostate stimulation, or anal sex has commenced, do not put the finger, toy, penis, etc anywhere else. Failure to follow this rule can lead to serious infections.

]]>4) Use copious amounts of lubricant. The rectum does not produce a mucus or natural lubricant like the vagina does. Water-based lubricants are recommended over oil-based lubricants.

]]>3) Start small & slow. Start small with a finger. Even if your partner is comfortable with anal sex, give them ample time to relax into the activity each time. The external sphincter muscles are voluntary muscles and can be controlled. However, the inner sphincter muscles, are involuntary muscles and cannot be controlled. If discomfort, stress, fear, or anxiety hits your partner, this muscle will contract. If you continue without allowing it to relax, you can cause your partner a great deal of pain.

]]>2) Never force anal fingering, anal sex toy play, analingus, prostate stimulation, or anal sex. If you do, you are going to be the reason your partner never attempts it again when they drop you for a better bed partner.

]]>1) Communication is everything. Let your partner know you are interested in the activities before starting them. Once your are given the green light, continue to communicate as you explore anal activities (if you're the giver, most of your communicating will be LISTENING)

]]>I've mentioned or alluded to most of these in previous posting but for a consolidated list, here are the guidelines for suc-sex-ful anal sex activities:

]]>The final reason your partner may not be open to anal activities is because of a lack of exposure to the idea. If your idea of exposing her to this activity is getting her drunk and "trying the back door", you deserve whatever you have coming! Not only is that poor communication skills on your part, it is also a good way to physically harm her. Trying to ENTER her anus with something as large a penis when she has spent her entire existence EXITING pliable refuse, is almost a guarantee to cause her great discomfort. Start with a discussion. Plant the seed in her mind. Let her get comfortable with the idea first. Allow her to clean herself thoroughly. Some women actually demand a chance to douche before beginning any anal play. Start by touching her anus. Play around the area with you fingers. When the time is right, enter her with a well-lubricated finger. Start slowly, & gently. Let her call the shots & avoid getting carried away. If she is not relaxed or if she becomes tense, the naughty pleasure moans may turn to painful cries. Give her the assurance you are listening to her. (If you haven't figured out by now that women are first mentally sexual before they are physically sexual, you might want to start with some much more basic reading material!)

]]>If your partner has avoided anal sex activities due to misconceptions, the good news you can resolve these! Probably the most common misconception is 1) Anal sex (or any anal stimulation) is always painful for the receiver. Well, just like vaginal intercourse was probably slightly uncomfortable the first couple times, so might anal intercourse be slightly uncomfortable. If you follow the guidelines (as I will outline in posts to come) the discomfort (even painful) part of your first couple sexual experiences can be greatly reduced. The first couple vaginal experiences might have been a bit awkward for her but she didn't give up having sex altogether. (Caution: If you fail the communications test & / or if you disregard her comfort, she may give up having ANY sex with you). 2) Another misconception is that it anal stimulation is dirty (physically). And it can be if the receiving partner has not had a chance to clean up. Starting in the shower (with copious amounts of lubricant) is perfect. 3) Another misconception is that the anus & rectum stores feces. The only time this is true is during a bowel movement (toileting or needing to). 4) The final misconception is that anal sex will cause loss of sphincter control (stool incontinence). Again, this is partially true. But only to the extent pain discomfort are regularly ignored by either the giving or receiving partner. While this problem can be surgically corrected, it is better to avoid it all together by taking it slowly, NEVER forcing the penis or sex toy, using copious amounts of lubricant, & listening to your partner.

]]>If your partner has a religious preclusion to anal activities, you need to either give up the idea, or find yourself a new partner...period. Bad past experiences, misconceptions, a lack of exposure are all sur-mountable ass-ertions (pun intended). Let us start with the first one: Bad past experiences. Invariably, a bad past experience can be chalked up to poor communication and amateur mistakes. A lack of communication on the guy's end is typically, not listening. If she says it's too much, too big, too fast - listen! And watch her body language! If she's pulling away, grimacing, and tensing up, she's not enjoying it. The most common mistakes include forcing the activity, not enough lubrication, not starting off slowly enough, not using a condom, & not allowing her to sufficiently clean up 'back there' before starting the activity. (Remember, women are more self-conscious about their hygiene than we are!) So if your partner's reason for avoiding anal activities is due to bad past experiences, first, hear her out. Understand how it went wrong in her mind and give her the assurance that those mistakes will not be repeated.

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Posted Topic: Can Women Feel The Difference?

Topic Starter: TheBedWhisperer

]]>Topic Detail: I've always wondered? Can women tell the difference between, say a Rough Rider condom & Kimono Micro Thin condom? I think I can speak for most guys when I say, we would prefer nothing at all but in this day and age, its simply not an option!

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